Friday, October 28, 2011

2nd Appointment

Yesterday, we had our 2nd baby appointment in this pregnancy. I was not quite sure what to expect but it was the most simple and pain free experience thus far. I kind of feel bad asking Josh to go with me, because the appointment was literally 10 minutes long.

We showed up and the nurse weighed me. I am only up 1/2 a pound so far so that's awesome. It looks like a lot more because of all the bloat but hey, the numbers don't lie! Then she checked my blood pressure which was a good 112/72. I absolutely love the nurse at this ob-gyn. She is hilarious and kind and makes me feel like I'm just an old friend walking through the door, not just another patient. We talked a little bit about pregnancy hormones and watching movies and then she told us the doctor would be right in.

I got to keep my clothes on this time, which is always a good sign! Dr. Berenbaum came in, said hi to us, asked me how I was feeling and gave me some props for my weight. Then she pulled out the teeniest little contraption from her pocket and said we were going to hear the baby's heartbeat.

I laid back on the table and undid my jeans. She squirted the super cold blue ultrasound goo all over my tummy and placed the doppler a couple inches below my belly button. Lo and behold, our little peanut was exactly she anticipated. Almost immediately the room filled with the beautiful sound of galloping horses. She kind of raised her eyebrows and said, "wow! That's great that it's so strong and was so easy to find especially at 10 weeks!" Then our little stinker decided to be a little difficult (wonder where peanut gets that from??) and started moving around. It took her a few minutes but she eventually found the heartbeat again. She told us it was a good strong 162 and that it would probably start slowing down now that we were on our way to the second trimester.

I absolutely love this doctor. She spent some extra time moving the doppler around showing us that the whooshing sounds we heard was my heartbeat and that the faster galloping noise was the baby. It was so fun watching Josh's face as that sound came out. It just keeps getting more and more real! She asked if we had any questions, confirmed my Round Ligament Pains when sneezing and told me to be back in 4 weeks. Our next appointment with her is the week of Thanksgiving, on November 22nd.

Up next, we have our NT scan on November 10th. I will say it has been SO nice getting to go in and get checked out and see/hear the baby so frequently during this pregnancy. Even though I always get nervous before the appointments that something is going to be wrong, afterwards I just feel like I am floating. It is a strong sense of peace and happiness, like I'm doing everything I need to be doing for myself and this baby. Josh and I discussed it and we decided that after this NT scan (which is the next time we will get to see our little peanut and get a new updated ultrasound picture) we will finally announce our pregnancy to the world. As tempting as it has been to just shout it from the rooftops, it has been really special and wonderful having our own little secret for awhile. I'd like to come up with a cute creative way to "come out" on facebook so I'll be updating when I figure out what that is.

The most reassuring thing about all this is our doctor told us now that we have both seen and heard the heartbeat and since we are at 10 weeks, our chances of miscarriage drop from 15% all the way down to 3%. I was having some worrysome cramping last night, but I am pretty sure it was a mixture of constipation and just soreness from her pressing pretty hard on my tummy yesterday. We have both just been smiling and so happy about it...and feeling so very blessed.

Thursday, October 27, 2011

10 Weeks!

I had all these grand schemes for having Josh take these cute posed belly shots of me from now on...and then we tried it. He stood up, snapped 3 quick pictures without even thinking about how my face was in shadow or how my hair was parting funny. I looked at them, asked him to take a couple more and like any man, he told me they were fine. So, basically I need to invest in a tripod. Because these shots in the bathroom mirror just aren't cutting it anymore.

Here is my 10 week shot:



I have been feeling okay the last week. I am still gagging like no other but only when I let myself get hungry. I actually have a little of an appetite now, which is so nice. I forgot how food that is not mac and cheese and mashed potatoes taste! My little bump continues to just stick out. I have no clue what is causing it, or where it is coming from but it seems like there is no turning back now!

Bump Update:
How Far Along?  10 weeks! (well, 10 weeks 2 days technically)
Maternity Clothes? I'm still rocking the maternity jeans even though they are too big still. They are much comfier.
Weight Gain? I was just weighed today at the doctor and I am only up 1/2 a pound. I am ecstatic about that! My ob-gyn recommended that I gain 5 lbs in the first trimester. With only 3 weeks left to go, I am doing great on that front.
Stretch Marks? Besides the plethora of them I already had on my thighs, no.
Sleep? I have not been as tired this week as all the previous weeks. It has been so nice. I am not sleeping great because my back has started hurting, but I cannot really complain.
Best Moment of the Week? I will write a seperate post about this, but hearing our little peanut's heartbeat for the first time today!
Movement? None yet. :)
Gender?  We have done multiple silly "gender tests" online and so far the consensus is equally boy/girl. So no help there! I still have this hunch that it's a boy though.
What I miss? Being able to suck in my tummy flat. That will not happen for awhile!
Symptoms: More gagging, but less nausea. That makes no sense to me. Headaches. Strong sense of smell. Higher level of annoyance with everything...haha. Sciatic pain!
Weekly Wisdom:  When sneezing, don't flinch or clinch your muscles! The tweaked nerve pain is much more painful than a few seconds of round ligament pain.
Milestones: Hearing the heartbeat! Making it to double digits of this pregnancy! So so exciting.
Emotions:  Still getting irritated about irrational crap...which is annoying. I still cry at silly things, but most of all I keep having these "life changing" moments when I just sit here and think, "wow. I'm going to be a mommy soon!!!" I know it sounds crazy, but sometimes I forget...and when I have these moments, it is just unreal. Every single time. 

Monday, October 24, 2011

Where did that come from?

We had a busy weekend planned out. Complete with dinner dates to our favorite Mexican restaurant with my mom and her fiance, birthday parties for Josh's sweet grandmother and of course football games on Sunday. I woke up on Saturday morning, feeling extremely puffy and bloated and having some bad kidney pain. I figured that UTI I had been wary of had finally reared it's ugly head. I ran to the store on the way to work and picked up the biggest thing of cranberry juice I could find. I spent my 5 hour shift guzzling it like it was going out of style (and of course making many many trips to the bathroom). By the time I left, I was feeling much better, much skinnier and was noticing that something had happened with my tummy.

I have been "showing" for weeks now. At least I look different than I normally do, even if it is just bloat. But while getting ready for our Mexican dinner date, I threw on my favorite comfy, stretchy black long sleeved t shirt. And I spent the next 10 minutes twisting and turning in our bathroom mirror, just staring in awe. Something had definitely popped. I could no longer suck my tummy in flat like I have been able to. I ran out to where Josh was watching T.V and said, "what is this?!?!" and pointed to my belly. He started laughing, raised his eyebrows and said, "I do believe that is a baby bump!"

Correct me if I am wrong, but...


Please ignore my creepy off to the side eyes. Thanks.

When we got to my mom's I told her I popped and she laughed but then I pulled my jacket back. She cocked her head to the side and said, "I DO see something!" It was just funny. I probably look no different to any random person, but to me I see such a difference in my body.

Our dinner was amazing...it was so awesome to finally have an appetite again after so many weeks of nausea. I was in heaven with chips and salsa and my "Ric's Platter" ( a sampler of mini Mexican items like flautas and chimichangas and tacos) Actually, I want to go back! Right now!

The next day we had a dinner party at my father in law's house for Josh's grandmother's 70th birthday. On the way there, I was sitting in the passenger seat and felt a sneeze coming on. Lately, when I am in certain positions, if I sneeze or cough I get these killer pains in my abdomen. My doctor says they are round ligament pains. They hurt like CRAZY. Anyways, I felt this sneeze coming on and so I guess when I sneezed, I tensed all my muscles in anticipation of the crazy abdominal pain. Well, that problem was averted but by twisting funny I somehow tweaked a nerve in my lower back.

All night last night, any time I stood or took a step, I got a shooting pain across the top of my left buttcheek, my lower back and allllllll the way down my left leg. When I was sitting, it was more of a sharp throbbing. It was awful! I spent the night with a heating pad off and on my back. This morning it seems to be a little better. I called my Ob-gyn and they told me it definitely sounded like my sciatic nerve. She said sadly I was right in thinking the only remedy was heat, rest and tylenol. So...that was fun. I pinched a nerve by sneezing. Only me.

Besides that, we had a great time with family yesterday and got to see all our nieces and nephews. Josh keeps telling me he does not want a girl, but last night around our new 4 month old niece, he was a puddle of mush. I was laughing because she completely and totally transformed him into a complete softy. He was smitten with her big blue eyes, soft downy hair wisps and little baby smiles. One time when she was fussing, he took her and held her up on his shoulder like he'd been doing it for years and just started walking around the house with her chanting, "it's okay....it's okay." :) And she stopped. She completely relaxed and calmed down. And the smile on his face was undeniable. I think he looks at children in a different way now. Even though he has always loved and been great with children, he just has a spark about him now that makes me love him a million times more than I already do.

I can hardly believe in 6 short months, we will have our own little one to love and comfort. It is such a beautiful thought to imagine Josh and I embodied in a child.

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

9 Weeks!

As usual, I am posting a day late. I never can seem to be on the ball of taking the picture, editing it and blogging all in the same day.

I was very excited to get to this week. 9 weeks symbolizes our entrance into the third (and final!) month of the first trimester. And believe me, I am ready to kiss the first tri bye bye. We are not the greatest of friends. It also is the week that the little "peanut" inside of me becomes a fetus. Although I hate that word and to me he/she has always been a baby. My baby book tells me that this week our little one is the size of a medium green olive or a grape. That's amazing to me since just a few short weeks ago, peanut was the size of a poppyseed! I also found it quite amusing that my uterus is now the size of a grapefruit...and I can feel every inch of it. My whole lower abdomen just feels swollen.

I actually got my first comment the other day about how I might just have a baby belly. It was from my mom and although she probably knows I just want to hear that it still made me smile. I have officially busted out a pair of Gap maternity jeans with a low belly panel and they are the most glorious things I have ever had on my body. I told my mom I am never going back to regular pants! Because of the stretchy, soft waistband they feel like jammies but they look really cute!

 I think it is pretty clear that week 8 was the week of the wicked bloat and it has calmed down a lot since then. That's probably due to the fact that I have been able to go to the bathroom lately. I feel like the bump has rounded out a lot towards my lower tummy. Yes, there is still some bloat but there is also a hard little knot down there and I'm pretty sure that's the beginnings of a true baby bump.



If there's one thing this little photo journey has taught me, its that I need to clean my bathroom mirror more often. :)

Here is a weekly "survey" that I am going to try to do from now on just to be a little more organized.

How Far Along?  9 weeks!
Maternity Clothes? Jeans yes.  I own a lot of flowy loose shirts anyways so I probably won't buy any specifically maternity tops until I have to.
Weight Gain?I am finally back to my pre-pregnancy weight. Meaning that I have not gained anything really. I lost a couple pounds from being so sick but now I'm back to normal.
Stretch Marks? Not yet..and I pray not for a long time!
Sleep? blah. I have been sleeping horribly the past couple nights. Between tossing and turning because my bed hurts my back, my dear sweet husband snoring non stop and getting up to pee every hour I am just exhausted. *yawn*
Best Moment of the Week? Reaching 9 weeks in general. It makes me happy to think that I am in my third month of pregnancy!
Movement? Nope. But I cannot WAIT for the day I get to feel something.
Gender?  Still up in the air at this point. Josh wants a boy and honestly, so do I for our first. My mom thinks it is a girl. :)
What I miss? Energy. And Margaritas. I was craving one so bad the other day I almost made virgin ones.
Symptoms: I feel like the nausea and exhaustion are even worse this week. I am physically dry heaving now around dinner time and I have to force myself to eat something. *gag* I've also started getting these fun little headaches. And my allergies have been SO much worse. I don't know if that's related but it sucks.
What I’m looking forward to? 2nd tri energy.  I am so so tired. {ditto from last week}
Weekly Wisdom:  Uhm don't annoy a pregnant woman? Things that should have just rolled off my shoulders have made me so angry lately...
Milestones: We told Josh's parents this week and his dad was so happy for us. He made fun of us a little because we just can't seem to make it til the first trimester without blabbing!
Emotions:  I've been less of a crying mess and more of a homicidal rage kinda girl these days. Like I said above, things that just shouldn't bother me that much get under my skin so bad! And the one person who I really cannot stand on a good day has been making me want to slap a hoe. Ahem.

Here is a fun collage of weeks 7,8 and 9. I think the difference in the shape of my tummy in week 9 is pretty obvious. Maybe that's just wishful thinkin' though

Friday, October 14, 2011

Morning Sickness?

Man, I really thought I was getting over the hump of this "morning sickness" thing. Which for me has pretty much been all day nausea, dry-heaving type of gagging all the time and this constant yucky "warm" churny feeling in my tummy until I basically force myself to eat something. For whatever reason, mine has been way worse at night. I am thinking it is probably because I am not eating a whole lot during the day, so by the time dinner time rolls around, my stomach is pretty empty. Ironically, the emptier my stomach gets, the worse the nausea gets. Its a vicious cycle really.

All that aside, the past couple days or so, I thought I was feeling a little better. I even had...dare I say it?...an appetite for the first time in weeks. Last night I had a wicked craving for cheese enchiladas which of course are impossible to find at 11:00 pm on a Thursday. Unless of course you venture out to a Mexican restaurant. Josh just raised his eyebrows at me like, "I don't think so woman!" I was excited that something finally sounded appealing to me besides mashed potatoes and blue kool aid.

And then...I woke up this morning. Let me just say, the "morning sickness" is back with full force today. Ugh. Brushing my teeth has become an exercise in self control. As in, do not puke. The second the toothbrush hits my mouth its just like instant "I'm-gonna-vomit" feeling complete with gagging. Awesome. Don't you worry though, I fight through it! The thing is, after that happens first thing in the morning it is kind of all down hill from there. Right now, as is usual lately, I cannot bring myself to want to eat anything. Sadly I know that will only make matters worse.

I'm off to go choke down a granola bar or something....oh and morning sickness? You can go away now!!

Thursday, October 13, 2011

8 Week Bump/Update

I really *Really* did not want to take a picture of myself this week. As cute and petite as I looked last week with just a little hard knot down low for a baby bump, I feel like I look like a whale this week.

I am Bloated, man! It is ri-flipping-diculous. It could have something to do with the only things that don't make me wanna gag are plain, simple carbs. Totally healthy right there. I have a feeling I might be close to another birthing/bathroom experience soon (uhm, ew. )

So here I am in all my puffy glory. You can still see the little knot of a baby bump. This time, we know for sure that little "Peanut" as Josh likes to call it is in there.



I'm just now seeing how awkward this picture is. It looks like I don't have an arm, but rather a stump. And you can tell by the way my back is freakishly arched forward that I have some bloat going on in the front. Its the only remotely comfy way to stand lately. *sigh*

In other news, I decided I am gonna wear that same outfit for all my weekly pics just for some continuity. Now if only I could remember which direction to stand in while taking the picture. Oh, and I'm pretty sure until I get a professional to take some maternity pics, I will continue chopping off my own head. Because no one wants to see that anyway. Usually when I take these pics, I have just gotten off my butt to get ready for work and thus, have no makeup on. And I'm not about to put makeup on to take a picture of my belly. Ahem.

As far as updates for this week:

I am still tired...all the time. But I have notice a little boost in my energy in the afternoons which is good because that is when I am at work. The second I get home though, I am so ready for bed.

I have been having more food aversions than cravings. My most recent aversion which made everyone laugh was the thought of chicken noodle soup making me gag. Way back in elementary school, my teacher had a rabbit and I swear to you the smell of its cage (I don't know if it was the rabbit's pee or what) smelled just like chicken noodle soup. *vomit*

I also woke up this morning and could SMELL the laundry in our washing machine that has been sitting there damp for a couple days. EW!

Today I had my first case of what I would assume to be pregnancy brain. It was honestly a little scary. I just could not focus. On anything! People were talking to me and it was just in one ear and out the other. Wow. Let's hope I don't have many more of those days.

I also had my very first CRAZY pregnant dream last night. I won't go into all the details because it was oddly steamy at first but then it got scary and I started bleeding (in the dream). Let's just say I woke in a bit of a panic.

I have been soooooo thirsty. I just drink and drink all day and really, that does not help with the I-have-to-pee-every-5-seconds thing I also have going on.

As far as what few cravings I have had:
*Green olives. Honestly, I could eat an entire jar if Josh was not battling me for them.
* Instant cheesy mashed potatoes. They are warm and bland and salty and just what I need for the constant nausea.
*Chocolate milk. I haven't consumed any yet as milk and me do NOT get along but I want it. Bad.
*Tuna sandwiches. My ob-gyn told me no tuna at all which most of the time they say canned tuna is okay in moderation, but here's another craving I won't get to quench. It's probably for the best.

Surprisingly with all these carbs, I have lost another 2 pounds.That puts me down 4 overall. They say you should gain 3-5 in the first trimester. With 4 weeks left, I now am thinking that might now happen. I am pretty okay with that though because I could have/ should have lost about 15 pounds before getting pregnant anyway. Oops!

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

The Real 8 Weeks

Since our due date set back last week, I have felt a little bummed that I had to "re-do" weeks 7 and 8. I know that is a little ridiculous because I never did them in the first place, technically.

Alas, today I have legitimately made the 8 week marker and I will say that things are just starting to feel more and more real. We already have our 10 week ultrasound scheduled to hear the baby's heartbeat. This morning, I got a call from a geneticists office that my Ob-gyn recommended and made an appointment to do the first trimester screen with them.

Although I am very against amniocentesis and CVS screenings because of the potential risk they serve to me and the baby, I figured this first screening was something that might be nice to have done. That way, at least we have a better idea of what is going on in there. The sweet receptionist told me all about the procedure and what would take place. Basically, its the most non-invasive screen you can imagine. They will do a genetic ultrasound where they will measure the nuchal fold at the back of the baby's neck. Apparently, this can give us some clue as to the possibility of down syndrome and other issues that might arise. Then all I have to do is a finger poke to give some blood that they will screen for a specific hormone that can point towards Trisomy 18, 21 and other genetic issues.

I do not believe that I would do anything differently with the pregnancy if we found out we even had a 100% chance of a genetic disorder. I know it is something you never want to happen to you, but honestly that is our baby in there. And we will love that baby no matter what. It is kind of surreal thinking of these huge life changing things this early in pregnancy, but I am so thankful that we have the technology available to give us some peace of mind.

This test is apparently 91% accurate in detecting the markers of down syndrome. Although Josh and I have literally no cause for concern as neither of our families have genetic disorders within them I still feel like it will be good to know. In addition, it is another excuse to see our little peanut in there.

I feel very blessed that we are getting to see the baby as much as we are:
7 weeks
10 weeks for the heartbeat ultrasound
12 weeks for the first trimester screening
20 weeks for the determination of gender.

That's all I know about so far. As far as everything else, I feel even more at peace with this pregnancy now. I have seen my little miracle inside of me. I have seen the flicker of a tiny, miraculous heartbeat. I know without a doubt that my body was made to nurture and grow this little bean into a perfect baby.

Friday, October 7, 2011

REWIND!

I just got back from our first amazing pre-natal appointment. I am seeing a new obgyn and she is just awesome. My 1/2 hour appointment became almost an hour and 15 minutes because she was just talking to me and telling me everything I needed to know.

Because of my early loss back in late July/early August there was some confusion as to when I actually conceived. She told me I could either be way farther along than I thought or not as far. She did a pelvic exam and told me my uterus did not feel as progressed as 9 weeks (which is what I assumed based on my first day of bleeding in August.) She decided to do the transvaginal u/s just to try to date the pregnancy more accurately.

Josh was standing right there next to her when she first found the baby. She explained all the different parts and what we were seeing which was SO cool! Then we saw the most amazing thing I have ever experienced in my life: a tiny fluttering heartbeat. Josh and I just locked eyes and he had the biggest smile on his face. I had tears in my eyes and it was honestly magic. While I was laying down, the picture was actually kind of fuzzy, but I sat up to see the ultrasound screen better and she was able to show us (and capture!) a pretty detailed little picture. We could see the shape of a head and little arm and leg stumps, and the head to rump measurement put me around 7 weeks 3 days.

So...REWIND! I thought I was 9 weeks, but I just went back in time almost 2 weeks. She told me not to worry, as my LMP was strange I probably just conceived later than I thought but that everything looked perfect. I got my first positive pregnancy test on September 6, 2011 and that would mean I was 8 days past conception. So once again, I know my body. I was barely 3 weeks pregnant when I took that test. I have another appointment at 10 weeks (so October 27th) to hear the heartbeat. I am feeling so calm and blessed right now.

Ever since the appointment, I have been referring to the baby as "he." I don't know why, it just feels right. I'm sure if it is a girl she will one day be mortified that we called her a he for awhile there. :) Here is our PERFECT little miracle of a jellybean:

Ouch and Eww

I was just woken up out of a deep sleep by what I thought for a second were contractions. I am fully aware that I am only 9 weeks pregnant, but in my bleary eyed confusion, that is the first thing that came to my mind. My entire abdomen was clenching up in extreme pain and waves of nausea were coursing through me like mad. It was about this time that I remembered, I had not had a normal BM in about a week!

I got out of bed and tried to quietly make my way to the bathroom. Looking in the mirror at myself, I was horrified. My reflection resembled a crazy person literally. My hair was doing that cute, I-went-to-bed-with-damp-hair craziness, my face was pale as a ghost from the pain and my belly was so distended I honestly looked 7 months pregnant. Apparently, my body decided that 3:00am was a swell  time to get things moving right along.

An hour later (and 4 trips to the bathroom, 2 tums and a glass of ice water) I think I am finally in the clear. It was honestly touch and go for a minute there. I have never in my life felt such horrible gas pains. Each new wave of pain would make me double over and almost gag. I was afraid I was going to have one of those sitting on the toilet while puking in the trash can moments. Thank God, I didn't. It is so funny though because I really had to like breathe my way through it. And afterwards, I felt like I accomplished the first milestone of pregnancy. It felt awful, painful, disgusting and totally gross but I did it.

I feel *so* much better right now than I have in days. The horrific bloating is already decreasing and I can just feel how my abdomen is not as swollen and painful to the touch. I am still awake because I have been dreading going back to bed and being woken in an hour with another bout. It's been about an hour without any ahem, movement though so I think I need to turn off my brain and go lay down.

In about 6 hours, I have my first pre-natal appointment and I am honestly feeling a million things. Including shock that I was even able to get to sleep before the incident. I am ready to find out the fate of me and this baby. And wanting, more than anything in this world, for everything to turn out perfectly okay.

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Moody Judy (8 Weeks)

Phew. I am a piece of work lately. I can feel myself doing it: being an absolute be-yotch for no reason. And being irritated is irritating. Hello, pregnancy hormones!!!

I just now realized I am 8 weeks and 5 days and have not posted a weekly update yet. Well, that would simply be because I am just...so...over everything right now. Maybe it was the crazy, stressful dramatic weekend we had. Maybe I am upset because we don't get to celebrate our one year anniversary until next week. Maybe its this stupid cold that crept up on and is now kicking my butt. All I can say is, I am just a flipping ray of sunshine right now.

Currently topping my list of things that are sending me over the edge:

*Josh putting his feet on mine. Whether we're in bed or just watching TV on the couch. Whether we both have socks on or just him or whatever. Something about it is currently pushing my every last button. Crazy!

*Working in customer service. People are always rude. This is nothing new to me. What is new is this brazen attitude I have recently developed that makes me want to wave in people's faces and say, "hey....yes, you there. Hang up your damn cell phone or I will not assist you!"

*My apartment being a complete and utter disaster area. I have neither the time nor the energy to clean it and I just keep letting it get worse and worse.

*Peeing every 2.5 minutes. Seriously. I am so sick of unzipping pants, sitting on the toilet, wiping and then repeating. Who knew such a common everyday thing could be so irritating?

Apart from the MAYJAH switch in my mood lately, I have also been having a slew of other new symptoms which actually have been more of an ego boost that everything is going as it should. These include:

*Headaches. All the damn time. Mostly around my eyes but sometimes a bad tension headache in my neck.

*A fun little pinchy, spasm-y back pain right above my left butt cheek. When I turn a certain way or sit too long and move I actually gasp because its such a random sharp pain.

*Night nausea. I don't know what dinner is anymore. I have been eating instant mashed potatoes like a mad woman in an attempt to not vomit every night. And I still get that creepy gaggy feeling in the back of my throat all day long.

*Random tugs and cramps in my abdomen. Not painful by any means but definitely noticeable. And they definitely feel like very mild menstrual cramps. I am assuming this is the uterine stretching I have been reading about.

*BLOAT baby. Where I could see a definite hard knot in my tummy last week, this week all I see is a bunch of bloated yuckiness. I cannot even suck it in anymore. And my hipbones? I miss them. :(

Saturday, October 1, 2011

One Year

A year ago today, I was walking down the aisle into the arms of the best man I have ever known. It astounds me how quickly this year has flown by: as they say, "time flies when you're having fun."

Our relationship is truly a work of magic. There is literally nothing I would change about the man he is or the love that we have. I like to tell people, we are not perfect but we're real. And we are. We really live our lives in a simple way. We really are not glamorous, rich or put on a pedestal. We really work hard for a small apartment and two cars. We really come home at the end of the day sweaty and tired and completely relieved to be in one another's arms again. We really laugh at little things all day every day. We really have our own unspoken language and bond with each other that no one can decipher or understand. We really know when to talk and when to stay silent. And we really know how to love with passion, with wholehearted energy and complete bliss.

A year ago today, I did not picture this one year anniversary unfolding as it has tonight. We had a wild and crazy adventure yesterday which led to my sweet husband being on strict rest this weekend. So here we sit, watching a movie, eating soft foods and drinking gatorade and yet, it is still the most perfect night I could imagine. It symbolizes us. We hit snags but we move on in our own comfortable way. And everything turns out just fine because we are together.

As far what happened last night? My husband got knocked for a loop playing beer league softball with all of his buddies. I was on my way to the field (late, of course!) when I began getting calls from one of the other team wives. When I answered, she gave me the scary news that Josh had been hit in the head with a softball. As someone who is intrigued by medical shows and symptoms, I knew right away that what we were dealing with was potentially dangerous. I flew the rest of the way there and when I pulled into the parking lot, I was greeted with a slew of ambulances and firetrucks. All for my baby, my life, my reason for living. My heart dropped into my toes and I ran all the way until I saw him.

When I got there, he was surrounded by a group of EMTs and firefighters. I announced that I was his wife and they let me go sit by him. He was having trouble breathing, was very lethargic and unsteady and was bleeding from his nose. He also had an extremely big dent in his forehead between his eyes. Although I originally wanted to drive him to the hospital myself, I was talked down by a nice firefighter who told me he would get seen by a doctor a lot faster if he was taken by ambulance. So I kissed my everything as lightly as I could on the forehead and I promised him I would see him there. I got in my car before they even had him loaded into the ambulance and I sped away, toward a hospital I hoped could take perfect care of him. I actually arrived about 10 minutes before the ambulance. I had called Josh's dad on the way and he met me at the hospital.

After a very scary 6 hours in the Emergency Room, we got his CT scan results back and were told he fractured his ancillary sinus, or the cavernous sinus area right in between his eyebrows. This fracture had caused the bleeding nose and all his other symptoms. He was also diagnosed with a mild concussion. By some act of God, he only fractured the front part of the skull, not the bone closer to the brain. There was virtually no brain bleeding, swelling or damage. I cannot tell you how those words coursed through my veins. He was okay. He had a big lump on his head and some killer black eyes in the works, but my better half was going to be okay. We have to go in for a follow up appointment on Monday to make sure he does not need any surgery or have any lasting complications due to the injury.

But for now, here we sit, a year after the happiest day of our lives and we are enjoying just as happy of a day. We may not be dolled up in wedding clothes. We may not be toasting to love and laughter with champagne. We are in our coziest pajamas, sipping on gatorade to counteract the nausea from his concussion, we ate instant mashed potatoes for dinner because they were warm and soft. To me though, this could not be upstaged by even the fanciest dinner or most beautiful wedding. I have more days to live with my husband by my side and a new perspective on just how precious our time together really is.